Thai-Style “Safe Sex”

I have noticed that many adult Thais living in Bangkok are sexually active, which is good. Though the level of knowledge about sexual health or safer sex is debatable.   Condoms and most contraceptives are available at local pharmacy and convenient stores, such as 7-11 but I have yet to see the femidom (Female Condom). So accessibility is not a concern for those who can afford the off-the-rack condoms and warm-me-down lubricants in an imaginative dildo-like container. The working class, the self-employed man who operates the…

Behind the Torment

Hitherto your eyes haven soften and you have looked too much, yes, far too much, upon the things of earth; the sorrow, the pain, the misery. If these so much torment you, beyond belief, what shall be your rapture when you lift your gaze to things of joy hiding in the chest of mankind.     ZashnainAn avid blogger, twitterer and photojournalist, Zashnain Zainal suffers from an incurable addiction to social work, helping marginalised communities since 1989. Nowadays he travels from the plantations of Malaysia…

Amusing Behavior: Tantrums in Bangkok

Temper tantrums in adults can, surely, be an early sign of mental illness and emotional problems. I don’t see much of that, with the people that I meet on a daily basis. The Thais are fond of smiling, or more often, merely remain silent in the face of a stubborn situation. Temper? Not much. However I noticed a misbehavior pattern, common among some politicians and all wannabes, regardless of their political color and business affiliation – ranging from IT consultants to local suppliers of products and services. These…

A break-up: Sadness grips your friend, so what do you do?

The delicate matters of the heart. People seem to be an expert on relationships nowadays. Some are bold to provide an endless supply of recommendations, and many merely expect to show tough-love to retaliate; But nearly all have no clue to what they are saying or doing. Yes, people usually give advice based on their own experiences:- an ugly encounter with an (unfaithful) ex-boyfriend, or based on a screaming match with a anxiety-enraged ex-girlfriend for some obscene and ungodly reason or another. Nevertheless you will…

Relationships, something we run away from & yet embrace it in the end

Relationships; many would easily say that relationships come and go, as easily as the breeze on a gloomy day. Others believe relationships go beyond the endurance of life, it stays deeply in your heart, beyond death. Relationships; a deeply subjective, organic issue. It grows every week, it dies every year – and yet we embrace it, taunt it, yell at it, and smile at it. A never-ending cycle of emotions, thus making relationships a completely chaotic enigma, wrapped in a triple dose of unreadable mystery.…

You have my attention, dear. I suggest you do not waste my time

Finally. So you are familiar with the rules of engagement. Satisfied with your knowledge about your lover. OK. Good for you, I guess, though I don’t believe you should pat yourself on the back, or even giggle in victory. Yes, we are still on the topic of relationships. At first glance, you and your lover are comfortable with each other, snuggling close, trading tender kisses, after that unavoidable, highly-anticipated argument. I am sure you are taking an extra step to make promises that such a…

Relationship: A combo dose of mental masturbation & psychotic behaviour

Bizarre but true: Healthy relationships are based on a combo dose of mental masturbation and psychotic love-affair drama. We cannot do without this double pleasure-cum-pain. Our partners are mysterious figures, sometimes we are inflicted by the madness of lust and frustration, circumnavigating in a chaotic manner around the personalities. Some would say a healthy relationship is based on unpredictability, the character jigsaw of random behaviours. Being unpredictable seems to excite lovers, naturally within certain limits of course; and the moment your partner becomes predictable then…

Misunderstandings, Why, Oh Why!

Misunderstandings. Why? Oh Hell, no one really knows for sure, “why”. Could it be blamed on one person who’s hormones are berserk? Or could it be blamed on the other one who’s stubbornness, and refusal to back down? Who cares why? The fact is misunderstandings do happen. It happens at a high frequency, as often as the guard dogs barking, or the two wild cats hissing at each other. What’s important is that both parties continue talking, if that fails, which it often does, then…