How relationships hide the dark whispers of your inner-self

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The heart knows many dark secrets of life, and whispers tempting promises to the soul. A human being spends time listening or ignoring the whispering. In a relationship, the person succumbs to the distraction of affection and attention, caring little or ignoring the whispers. The complexity of a relationship does mute the inner-struggle and offers a brief solitude from the nagging heart. At times, a relationship is merely an opportunity, and an excuse, for such luxury of distractions, and silence.

More like running away from the reality of living, of working out the mechanics of your conscience. There are relationships that depend on mere presence alone (of being with his lover), just to ensure that one doesn’t have to hear the whispering. Should he talk about his insecurity, his dilemma and his nagging compulsion? Should he open and share his heart to her, hoping desperately to find understanding and acceptance?

People must come to terms that having a companion, or a lover, to compensate the whispering is not a good start. Communication may be the best, but for that to happen your partner needs to listen. Such whispering should not be endured alone, cornered and battered, and feeling outrageously self-isolated.

Your heart doesn’t have to be invisible, you can let it go, talk to your lover, your companion, your listening friend.


An avid blogger, twitterer and photojournalist, Zashnain Zainal suffers from an incurable addiction to social work, helping marginalised communities since 1989. Nowadays he travels from the plantations of Malaysia to the slums of Thailand. He can be found at and @bedlamfury

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