Aye, I do love Bondage

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The other day, I was talking to a friend about the mechanics of sexual acts; due to her apprehension of what the boyfriend, a jealous fucking prick, may think of her… or me, lets just call her xxx for the purpose of this note.

Sexual fantasies are quite common. Everyone must have an imagination, or even a primitive one, when it comes to some sexual act; yes even those who just believe in the missionary position would have some stale but empowering imagination. Bondage is something that I would advocate for; something that people should try, even if it’s just a simple act of tying your partner’s hands to the wooden bedpost and blindfolding her. Oh yes, quite suggestive and erotic, isn’t it? Good, at least you’re not some cold fish.

Bondage is actually about arousing, as you will find yourself in unusual positions of submission, or merely the person observing from a nearby chair at the art of extreme discipline. Unless you’re into sadomasochism, there’s a high degree of self-compliance in minimizing harm to the bound (and gagged) partner. Your lover may experience discomfort and pleasurable anxiety but at any rate no pain. Palpitation of the heart, sweating, sensitivity of the skin, and a yearning to know what else would happen in a bondage session. Quite stimulating, trust me. There should not be any question that satisfaction and respect for each other is extremely important, and thus, you must talk to your partner about it first (and getting the consent!) before you decide to suddenly tie him up and shockingly find him screaming in uncontrollable panic due to some bizarre phobia.

It’s also about whether you’re comfortable with yourself and your body. Besides teaching you about knots and confinement, bondage does teach you about the body, the limbs, and the cock and cunt. If you’re going to faint now, please do not read further, though honestly I don’t see why you should be uncomfortable with the things you have on you. Nevertheless, understand and respecting your partner’s body is crucial. After all, tying her hands in a barbaric fashion with no respect to her limbs and unceremoniously shoving a rubber ball in her mouth tantamount to abuse or assault. So fucking please, respect your partner.

So the point, is that the act of bondage is a responsible one, similar to your mutual masturbation, and blowjobs, cunnilingus, 69, rimming, a threesome, double anal, or whatever. Sex is an adventure. Don’t spoil it with just a missionary position, do experiment with other acts, provided you have already made an informed decision, and take responsibility.

And that was what I told xxx.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Zashnain

An avid blogger, twitterer and photojournalist, Zashnain Zainal suffers from an incurable addiction to social work, helping marginalised communities since 1989. Nowadays he travels from the plantations of Malaysia to the slums of Thailand. He can be found at zashnain.com and @bedlamfury

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